When’s the last time you really thought about what you’re doing, why you’re doing it and what you want the result to be? 

It’s been said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Returning to the same old same old after a major set-back, is a formula for continued set-backs, with the probability of each set-back being worse than the last. Never changing a thing, and expecting everything to change for the better is—in a word, nuts! 

  I had my nails done a while back by a talky-tech who shared with me the heartbreak of her latest romantic relationship coming to a rather violent end. “I swear,” she said, “I’m a magnet for loser men.” She’s a pleasant person and even says she loves Jesus, but guess where she works nights? At a restaurant famous for its waitresses wearing cleavage and midriff-revealing red plaid tops with khaki short shorts.  

It doesn’t take a professional life coach to see this woman needs to take a close look at what she’s doing (and wearing) and ask herself some life changing questions. Interestingly, they’re the same kind of questions we all need to think about when unwanted change pulls the rug out from underneath us and we find ourselves wondering, “What happens now?”  

The first thing is to know and remember is this:  

God loves you. 

God is for you. 

You can trust Him with your future. 

 Dust yourself off, pick your head up, look around, and start asking questions that will begin moving you forward—one step, one positive change at a time: 

  1. What do I already know to do that brings me a sense of wholesome fulfillment?  
  2. How can I begin doing more of that? 
  3. What resources do I have available and who do I know that can help me begin making positive and sustainable changes in my life? 

Learn from the past. Keep the lessons and let go of the pain.   

Most of all, be brave, and don’t go back. Don’t be like the dog and the pig of 2 Peter 2:22. A dog returns to its vomit and, a sow that is washed returns to her wallowing in the mud. That’s not a good place to be and not where you belong. As the famous line from the movie The Help says: You is kind. You is smart. You is important, and may I add—You is loved.  

Look around, start asking questions and bounce back quicker from set-backs. 

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